Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is an accomplished witter and a big inspiration for black women..
The award winning writer was recently honored by John Hopkins University so you will be right to call her Dr. Adichie, you know what we mean? Put some respeck on that name. One thing that stands out for Adichie apart from her creativity shown in the books she writes is the way she stands for equal rights for women.
Here are a few quotes from the writer that will motivate you to be a great woman;
#1. Your life is yours and yours only
This quote is from her book ‘Half of a Yellow Sun’
You must never behave as if your life belongs to a man. Do you hear me?’ Aunty Ifeka said. ‘Your life belongs to you and you alone.
#2. Be yourself, forget about the guides and many rules
This is from her short book “We Should All Be Feminists” which is a must-read for everyone for better understanding.
All over the world, there are so many magazine articles and books telling women what to do, how to be and not to be, in order to attract or please men. There are far fewer guides for men about pleasing women.
#3. Your sexuality can never be taken away
This is from a 2014 conversation she had with fellow writer, Zadie Smith in New York to discuss her Americanah novel.
The idea that sex is something a woman gives a man, and she loses something when she does that, which again for me is nonsense. I want us to raise girls differently where boys and girls start to see sexuality as something that they own, rather than something that a boy takes from a girl.
#4. Don’t let marriage give you sleepless nights
Her book “We Should All Be Feminists” which is from her TEDx talk with the same title holds this great gem.
Our society teaches a woman at a certain age who is unmarried to see it as a deep personal failure. While a man at a certain age who is unmarried has not quite come around to making his pick.
#5. Being female is not a crime
This also is one of the major lessons from her TEDx talk.
We teach girls shame; close your legs, cover yourself, we make them feel as though by being born female they’re already guilty of something.
#6. He’s not worth it
The more reason why you need to read ‘We Should All Be Feminists’. This comes from it too
Of course, I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is exactly the type of man I have no interest in.
#7. Be you honey!
At her commencement speech at Wellesley college, Dr. Adichie had this to say
All over the world, girls are raised to be make themselves likeable, to twist themselves into shapes that suit other people. Please do not twist yourself into shapes to please. Don’t do it. If someone likes that version of you, that version of you that is false and holds back, then they actually just like that twisted shape, and not you. And the world is such a gloriously multifaceted, diverse place that there are people in the world who will like you, the real you, as you are.
#8. Marriage is not everything
This was a part of her work which made it to Beyonce’s ‘Flawless’ song on the self-titled album.
We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls: ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you will threaten the man.’ Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices, always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now, marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support, but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same?
#9. You’re human as well
This was from her speech to the Class of 2015 at Wellesly College
Never ever accept ‘Because You Are A Woman’ as a reason for doing or not doing anything
This also is from ‘We Should All Be Feminists’
I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femaleness and my femininity. And I want to be respected in all of my femaleness because I deserve to be.