What is the difference between a bad fling and a perfect relationship?
Being a single woman in a world full of couples and hitched folks can be rather annoying, especially if you’re looking for the one in all the wrong places. It may even leave you wondering if you’re just unlucky, especially if all your friends seem to be dating somebody who seems perfect.
Have you been dating a string of guys, all of who seem perfect to begin with, only to find that they’re just so wrong for you?
If you’re having a hard time finding Mr. Right in the long list of the wrong guys, here are 15 simple relationship tips for women that can help you understand guys and their mind better, and even help you bring out your best dating side in no time.
When you’re single, it’s easy to get caught up in thoughts and wonder why you aren’t finding the right person, when so many of your friends are happily dating or married.
But don’t let your frustrations get to you, or you may start feeling reckless in love.
Rely on your intuition when you meet a new guy, but don’t be too judgmental or picky from the very first moment you meet him. Be open minded, and most importantly, stop overanalyzing every single thing. Nothing works better than taking it easy for the first few weeks.
#2. Give him some control
Don’t be afraid to let a guy take care of you now and then. For a guy, nothing makes him feel more like a man than when he believes he’s taking care of you.
When you’re with a guy, and you want him to fall for you and feel protective towards you, you need to let him take care of you. Don’t be so guarded that he feels useless around you.
Never go looking for your old relationship in a new one, and don’t go looking for your ex’s qualities in your present lover. If you constantly try to look for similarities, you’ll end up finding someone who’s exactly like your ex, and that may not really work in your favor. Instead, look for qualities that you’d like to see in an ideal boyfriend.
#4Don’t be a drama queen
Don’t play mind games with a guy. It’ll just annoy him or push him further away. Instead, ask him questions, reveal how you feel and stop expecting a guy to read your mind all the time.
#5. If it’s not working, leave it
Some things are worth fighting for, but a new relationship? Well, it’s just not worth the effort. Don’t get into a relationship with second thoughts, and don’t hold on to relationships that you know has to end eventually because you don’t see a happy future in it. Staying on in a bad relationship will never give you happiness, not now, not ever.
#6. Never underestimate the freedom of being single
Don’t believe you’re flawed or negatively different if you don’t have a partner. Enjoy your life and you’ll see that the world can be full of experiences and unexplored possibilities, even if you don’t have a ring around your finger. Look for the right guy, but don’t put your life on hold while trying to find him.
#7. Be positive
As long as you’re looking in the right direction, you’re bound to see the right person in the horizon soon enough. Don’t be hasty, and at the same time, don’t feel let down because you aren’t dating someone right now. Be happy and live your own life on your own terms.
And remember, your happiness draws happy people to you while your negativity will leave you surrounded by miserable people .
#8. Be stress free
Guys can instinctively recognize a girl who is stress-free. Evolution has trained a man’s mind to subconsciously recognize happy women, and it’s also manipulated their mind to find stress-free women more attractive and sexually appealing. So the merrier you are and the more you laugh and have fun, the greater the odds of locking eyes with the perfect, awesome guy that so many girls desire.
#9. Open yourself to the world
Enjoy the little things. You only have a few hours of today before it turns into yesterday. In your pursuit of finding the right guy, don’t forget that you’re losing precious time pining over what you don’t have yet.
Make plans, go out, and have fun. Even before you realize it, you could meet the perfect guy just when you least expect it, doing something you’ve never done before, at a place you’ve never been to earlier!
#10. Expect a few pitfalls
Well, let’s face it. Life isn’t always perfect, and most of us have to kiss a few frogs before meeting the perfect lover. Now, not every date you go to may end in a fairytale romance. Be realistic, but optimistic at the same time. Chalk your bad dates as experiences, and look forward to a new potential and a new day in your exciting and adventurous life!
#11. Be the best you can be 24/7
Do you have any insecurities about yourself? Try to fix them, instead of hiding them under a fake veil of confidence. Look your best, dress your best, and feel your best. You never know when you may bump into your dream guy!
You are who you are, so don’t hide your true self from the guys you meet. If there’s something you don’t like about yourself, work on it and better yourself, so you can feel flawless from the inside out. But if there’s something you absolutely love about yourself, don’t hide it just to please a guy.
#13 Weed out the negatives
What makes you feel unconfident or insecure? Don’t hide yourself because you feel you aren’t good enough for the world. Being beautiful is nothing but a state of mind!
Love yourself, and every time you find a perceived flaw in yourself, improve yourself. Hiding yourself from the world won’t fix or change anything. Facing the world, on the other hand, will give you the motivation to be the best you can be.
#14. Your Mr. Perfect
Don’t build a checklist and shut the door to everyone other than the ones that fit your idea of a perfect man. Remember, you’re looking for someone to live with for the rest of your life, and sometimes, it takes more than a few checks and crosses to really understand the ingredients of a perfect life, for the present and the future.
#15. Don’t rush in
When you meet a guy who seems perfect, you can’t help but throw yourself helplessly into his arms, but avoid falling head over heels too soon. If a guy finds it too easy to win your heart, he may lose interest in you just as easily. You don’t have to always play hard to get, as long as you are still in control of your own heart until both of you can get to know each other better.
Guys don’t always fall in love the same way girls do, and a guy would place a bigger priority on getting a girl to like him, instead of just falling head over heels for her in the first place.
So take your time, and make sure your judgments aren’t clouded by your affection for a guy and try to understand him better. After all, you can experience a skip in your heartbeat in a flash, but heartbreaks take a lot longer to heal.
Written by:KEITH BROWN With a penchant for downing more energy drinks than is sane, Keith Brown is a bartender and amateur mixologist who geeks about superheroes and spends way too mu…