True love is the true definition of a perfect romance. But it’s usually hard to find!
True love takes time to grow and blossom; no such thing as love at first sight. What you experience in the first few weeks or months of your relationship is infatuation, physical or sexual attraction.
As the bursts of infatuation start to fade with the first few arguments and the first few misunderstandings, that’s when love starts to enter the picture. And this is where most couples start to drift away emotionally, or even end up breaking up because of incompatibilities.
If you’re in a relationship where both of you truly understand each other and feel compatible with each other, and most importantly, love each other, chances are, you’re experiencing true love already.
Here are 12 sign you can use to find out for yourself and see if your relationship is based on True love;
#1. Give and take in love
You give to the relationship wholeheartedly, without any desire or expectations of getting something back in return from your partner to justify your actions.
#2. Pure happiness
Just watching this special person smile or laugh out loud fills you with intense happiness, even if you’re suffering or having a hard day.
#3. Pain and anger
You get terribly hurt when your lover upsets you, but their actions never anger you. You may get annoyed or frustrated now and then momentarily, but you just can’t stay mad at them for long because staying mad or giving them the silent treatment hurts you more.
You make sacrifices for their happiness or wellbeing, even if they may never realize it.
#5. The right effort
You go to great lengths and make an effort to improve the relationship, and play a conscious part in trying to please your partner and make them feel loved and special.
#6. You can’t ever hurt them
When you’re truly in love with someone, you can’t even imagine hurting them, emotionally or physically. Payback is a strong human instinct, but true love makes you completely selfless.
#7. You keep your promises
When you make a promise to them, you stick to your word even if this person will never find out if you broke their promise. When you experience true love, your moral conscience becomes very strong when it comes to this one special person.
In a perfect relationship, it’s good to have your own space to grow as individuals. But at the same time, if you truly love your partner, you’d see them as a part of your life. When you think of your future, you can’t help but see them by your side.
#9. You share their burden
And you do that even if you don’t really have to. You can’t bear to see this special someone suffering. If they’re dealing with some issue, you’re always willing to offer them a helping hand even when you have your own difficulties to look into.
#10. Pride and jealousy
You beam with pride when they achieve something, even if it’s the same thing you failed at. You may get jealous of a friend who outdid you, but when you love someone, jealousy never enters the picture.
You’d be willing to suffer, just to see them happy.
#12. Their perspective
Everything you do, you keep your lover in mind and think from their perspective, be it about planning a surprise party or hanging out with your own friends after work. You don’t ever want to hurt your lover, so you always think from their point of view before making any decision that involves them in any way